Ask Pulse: Japa forced me to leave my wife in Nigeria, but I’m afraid she’s cheating on me

I am in a long distance marriage, I live abroad and my wife lives in Nigeria.

The reason we are breaking up is that I am not financially stable enough to get us together. I managed to get enough money to leave Nigeria.

I worry and feel sick, but we are working hard so we can be together.

In fact, I am constantly worried about my wife seeing other men, and it affects my ability to concentrate. How do I deal with this anxiety? Is it just insecurity or something real?

Long distance relationships are difficult and require a lot of trust.

Being away from your partner can make you miss them a lot, and your mind can start to imagine what they are doing and who they are with. Has she given you reason to doubt her loyalty?

It is important to remain calm. Even if you live in the same city, the possibility of fraud still exists.

You have to trust your relationship and believe that if something is wrong, the truth will eventually come out.

In the meantime, remember to stay in touch via video calls and text messages. Share photos throughout the day to stay close.

Also, try to speed up your meeting plans. If the visa process is taking too long, consider visiting her in Nigeria.