Was it a mistake to ask my girlfriend of 3 months to move in with me?

• After only three months of dating, I asked my new girlfriend to move in with me.
• At first I was very excited, but now I’m wondering if we’re moving too fast.
• Even though I am nervous, I trust that love will guide me.

Earlier this year, I asked my ex-friend to be my girlfriend and she agreed. Apparently the feeling of attraction and affection was mutual from day one and we pushed it aside until that week in June.

Today we are a happy couple and I couldn’t be happier with myself for taking this brave step. So far, we had experienced nothing beyond the simple joys and bliss of a fledgling romance – with each passing day and each minor disagreement, they were drawing us closer and closer.

August marked our third anniversary and I wanted to take the next step in our relationship. I decided to make a grand gesture and ask her to live with me in my new apartment.

Now I wonder if it was right.

I was immediately happy at the thought of moving in together

She agreed to live with me and we were delighted. For days, this was all we talked about: planning, designing and dreaming. We checked furniture, works of art, household appliances and kitchen utensils on the Internet.

I was so absorbed in the prospect of sharing my home with the woman I loved that I didn’t stop – not even for a moment – to consider the full weight of this decision.

She is only three years older than me, but much more emotionally mature. Often considers important decisions and puts everything in perspective before making a choice.

However, I have never been in a relationship and I get excited easily. Because of this, I didn’t consider the potential problems of moving in with someone so soon.

I spent the rest of August enjoying the thrill of my future life, only to wake up one September morning and realize that cohabitation was more than just comfort, sex, and the joy of companionship.

In reality, this decision is much more complicated

My biggest fear about moving in with a girl is the fear of making a mistake that will be difficult to recover from.

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I did my best to keep my cold feet to myself by staying quiet and calm. I was afraid to have the mature conversation we needed because the peace was too great to ruin.

Perhaps there is a distant connection between my sudden fear of moving in with the woman I love and the fact that we both haven’t told our families about our relationship due to cultural differences.

Hiding such information from my parents makes me much more uncomfortable than it does her – perhaps for the simple reason that I was raised by highly conservative parents. I worry about taking this important step with a woman – who I could marry – without including my family in the equation.

Life can be fun at the same time AND difficult. We may receive things that we are chasing but find that we don’t know what to do with them. That’s where I am now.

Fortunately, I finally plucked up the courage to have a difficult conversation with her. We agreed to put the decision on hold for now, but I’m still terrified by the thought – even though it excites me too.