I spotted something grim on my boyfriend’s dad’s phone – do I tell him or will it cause too much drama?

A woman is torn over what to do after uncovering an awkward secret on her boyfriend’s father’s phone.

After being with her partner for six months and meeting his parents a few times, the girlfriend noticed a dating app on his dad’s phone.

Sharing the tale on a dating Facebook group, the woman said she was attending an intimate dinner with the family when she was asked to set up a security app on the older couple’s phones.

She then spotted the Zoosk app icon – a global dating service for singles – on the man’s phone.

‘I didn’t say anything and pretended like I didn’t see it,’ the woman wrote, adding that the couple have been married for 35 years.

‘My boyfriend didn’t see it and has never used dating apps, so I don’t think he knows what it is.

‘I’m feeling… guilty. Should I say something to my partner or keep my mouth shut?’

Hundreds commented on the post and struggled to agree on what she should do. Many said she should go ahead and share what she saw while others considered it would cause more harm than good.

‘This is so tricky. I feel like I’d say something to my partner. We don’t hide anything at all. One day you’ll regret not saying anything,’ they said.

‘I’d tell my partner, everyone deserves to know,’ another added.

‘Just tell your partner and he can do what he wishes with that information, but just ignoring it could damage your relationship,’ a third chimed in.

A few said that ‘getting it off her chest’ by coming clean with her boyfriend and letting him decide what to do was the best course of action.

Others consider that if the app was in full view on the dad’s home screen then he could be hiding even more serious things from his spouse, and that the girlfriend should alert the wife, even if she did so anonymously.

Most insisted that it was definitely time to ‘zip it’ and that getting involved in the sensitive situation with its unknown family dynamics would only blow up in her face.

‘Keep your mouth shut, it’s not your problem, you will just cause a whole heap of unnecessary drama,’ they said.

Others commented that adultery wasn’t the only possible explanation behind the dating app and that it would be ‘super embarrassing’ for all if the older couple were swingers.

‘Leave it alone. They could be in an open relationship among other things, this could cost you your relationship with your partner,’ they said.

A few people told the original poster that she should be more concerned with her own position in the scenario, especially as she was in a relatively new relationship.

‘You will be made to look like the bad person,’ they said.

‘They always shoot the messenger,’ another added.