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‘Cockroaches’ Is the Latest Dating Trend Gen Z Needs to Beware of, and It’s As Gross as It Sounds

‘Cockroaches’ Is the Latest Dating Trend Gen Z Needs to Beware of, and It’s As Gross as It Sounds

Dating can be tough at the best of times, but relationship experts are warning of a resurgent dating trend known as “cockroaching” – a practice named after a common household pest.

Dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble are loved by both millennials and Gen Z.

This is due to the easy-to-use systems and numerous success stories of other users who have found lifelong love on these platforms.

The name “Roaching” comes from the humble cockroach. (Getty Stock Image)

However, just like dating in real life, it is possible to connect with someone you don’t get along with romantically or who has different ethics and relationship expectations.

However, instead of telling you honestly about their feelings, they may “ignore” you, “circumvent” you, or even start to “fake the future.”

Unfortunately, these three dating trends aren’t the only ones to watch out for, as a phenomenon known as “cockroaches” is becoming increasingly popular.

This phenomenon first appeared in 2021 and involves your partner deciding to be dishonest and hiding the fact that they are dating you in the company of many other people.

The name comes from the belief that when you see one cockroach hanging around, there is usually an entire infestation lurking in the background.

Supporting this definition, Susan Tombetti, CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, stated, according to The New York Post, that a cockroach is, “The inspiration is the grossness of seeing one of these little nasty bugs — but you know when you turn on the light, there are loads of them.”

Watch out for the signs to avoid falling victim to cockroaches. (Getty Stock Image)

While a cockroach isn’t cheating in and of itself, it’s often frowned upon because the person cheating is intentionally trying to keep their love life private.

However, if you haven’t sat down for that “exclusive conversation” yet, you both have every right to date other people.

But if you’re reading this and are worried that you’ve fallen victim to cockroaches, then you should know the signs, right?

Damona Hoffman, a dating coach at OkCupid, told The Post that you can usually tell if someone is taking advantage of you if you feel like “they’re not available to you or they’re not present and they’re very secretive about certain details.”

What’s more, senior therapist Sally Baker told Metro that you should look out for “tell-tale signs in body language”.

“Most people are uncomfortable lying, so they subconsciously communicate verbally or physically that they are not being transparent and not being completely honest,” she explained.

“Be attentive. Listen to what is being said and how it is being said.”

There are usually more than one. (Getty Stock Image)

She added that over-explaining a situation is a sign of malice, as is stuttering or speaking quickly to hide the truth.

Other potential signs of cockroaches include keeping your distance, hiding your evening plans, and not wanting to talk about your future.

“If you are unsure whether your partner is exclusive or not, you are at greater risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases,” she warned.

“That’s why it’s important to use a barrier method of contraception, regardless of other contraceptive methods you’re using.”

Sally added that it’s not worth demanding exclusivity from your partner if one of you maintains a secret social life.

Remember to stay safe when using dating apps!