How do I introduce my girlfriend to my Trump-loving parents?

Dear Priest,

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. My parents live in another state and I plan on visiting them soon. I would love to take her with me so we can meet, but I’m keeping something a secret. My parents are Trump supporters. I swear they are otherwise nice people. My girlfriend is very anti-Trump and I’m afraid if she comes over we’ll get into an argument about politics. What should I do?

Mod Erator (male, 27 years old)

Dear Mod Erator,

Couples have been putting up with their partner’s annoying parents for ages and they’ve survived. It’s time to rip off the band-aid and tell your girlfriend about her parents’ political views. She’s dating you, not them, so there’s no reason to be afraid of what she’ll think.

After she learns about their inclinations, she may decide she doesn’t want to meet your parents yet. And that’s fine. But give her the information so she can make up her mind. Don’t just drag her along and make it a surprise.

I don’t think anyone should ever feel like they have to hide their political views, but it’s never been good etiquette to talk about politics when you first meet someone. Your girlfriend and your parents need to be aware of this, but it doesn’t hurt to mention it.

If your girlfriend decides to go on a trip with you, talk to her parents beforehand and let them know that you would appreciate it if they didn’t bring up politics. Hopefully, they’ll agree to that, but if you don’t think they’ll keep their end of the bargain, ask her to try not to get involved in their conversations.

If your best-laid plans go to hell and a debate breaks out, so be it. You’re all adults and should be able to handle a heated exchange without everyone hating each other.

Also, stay somewhere other than your parents’ house. That way, you can manage the time you spend with them and have your own space when you need a break.

Good luck and God bless you,

Venerable