Why will this situation end in tears?

Say what you will, women and men are not wired the same. Women have been conditioned to honor their emotional needs, while men have been conditioned to suppress theirs. In a way that is both a blessing and a curse. Men have higher suicide rates because they don’t have the space to process and feel all of their emotions, and women tend to attach themselves too tightly to men who aren’t willing to meet them where they are.

Identifying this disconnect is important because women need to learn to better protect their hearts as they navigate partnerships and one-night stands. These casual relationships tend to take a huge emotional toll on women, unlike men who disregard their emotional health by moving from one sexual partner to another to numb the loss of an older one or cope with the disappointment of a previous one.

I can’t say much about male psychology because I’m not one, but I do know that they don’t seek the security of intimate relationships like women do. A casual relationship often works for them as long as it meets all their emotional needs, and women meet those needs, except it drains them internally to give so much of themselves to a guy who doesn’t commit or probably dates more people.

They get into situations where you have sex every other weekend, but you can’t say you like the person you’re having sex with. Or where you have sex every weekend, but you have to be okay with them ignoring you for two weeks in the name of being cool. You talk to each other every day, for example, but you can’t question them when they suddenly disappear for the weekend because you’re not a thing.

Or you have regular unprotected sex with them, but you have no right to ask them not to sleep with other people, even though unprotected sex puts you at risk for STDs. That’s no way to live, and women are putting themselves at risk every time they fall for this scam. It’s a scam, but on an emotional level.

I could advise women to be more like men. But the truth is, we will never be men. Being in touch with our inner selves is a fundamental part of who we are, and there is nothing as emotional as stepping out of character to be someone you are not, only to fit into a system that does not work for you.

For human relationships to work, men would have to be more like women and women would have to be more like men, but that is not possible. Both sexes carry with them stories that result from the social contexts of their upbringing and earlier development, and it is almost impossible to change that.

What may change is the way women behave when they are in a sexual relationship with a partner who is not willing to commit. I am not saying that you should be like them. I am just saying that women should be more selfish in what they give in no-strings-attached relationships. Men have perfected the art of emotional vampirism. In my opinion, most of them do not like no-strings-attached sex.

What they like are no-strings-attached relationships that meet all their needs, without a clause that gives women the right to make demands or the right to hold them accountable. That’s a scam that women should learn to recognize early on.

This scam involves listening to them complain after a hard day at work without offering them the same intimacy, spending weekends together, going on vacations, talking every day, going out regularly, and sometimes even having children in a situation that doesn’t allow you to question where you stand or where your relationship is headed.

I’m not against casual sex in any way, but casual sex shouldn’t involve so much emotional intimacy. Giving too much to someone who expects you to pretend you’re not emotionally involved is why relationships always end in tears for women. A man shouldn’t want a solid relationship if he’s not willing to commit.