Baby Boomer Wife’s Dad Constantly Trying to Convince Her Husband to Leave Her

Despite being with her partner for almost a decade, one woman wrote on Reddit that after they got married, her baby boomer father changed his behavior when it came to his relationship with his daughter.

In a post on the Boomers Being Fools subreddit, a woman wrote that her father has been making inept, hurtful, and demeaning comments to her husband — in their home. He’s essentially criticizing the institution of marriage and having children to the point where he seems to be trying to convince his son-in-law to leave their daughter.

Even though they’ve been together for over 9 years, one wife’s “baby boomer dad” constantly tries to talk her husband into leaving her.

“My partner and I have been together for 9 years. We met when I was 21 and he was 18,” she wrote in her post. “We became friends, then best friends, then decided to date, got engaged and that’s how it stayed.”

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“Our families live in California and I don’t think I need to explain to any of you the housing crisis and how hard it is to get a home,” she wrote. They have lived with her parents since 2018, but her father didn’t begin commenting on the matter until the two quietly married before the baby was born.

However, as the wife explained in her post, her father’s recent comments about her husband have left her unsettled, with commenters urging her to move out of the house before his attitude affects their relationship.

The wife said she could not ignore her father’s constant, hurtful comments.

“My boomer dad keeps commenting on my husband,” she wrote. She then gave several examples:

“You can go now.”
“From now on you will feel miserable.”
“It will only get worse from now on.”

In addition to what could be considered very bad jokes, his comments became more insulting and demeaning. He told her husband, “Women just take everything from you until there’s nothing left, so get used to it,” and “All women want to do is argue.”

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It’s clear that these comments were hurtful, but her primary concern was where they came from and why he said them.

Most commenters advised her to “get out of there,” but others offered a more thoughtful perspective. Perhaps he was projecting. There could have been unresolved issues in his own relationship that tainted her father’s view of marriage and women in general.

A wife needs to start putting her husband and child first, which may mean leaving her baby boomer father’s home and abandoning his toxic views on marriage.

Without actually confronting her father about his comments, there isn’t much more to say beyond speculation as to why he feels compelled to make these comments. Ultimately, however, the reason doesn’t really matter. What matters is that her priority is the health of her relationship and her family.

Bri Knight’s mom has a similar relationship with her husband’s parents, who became the “source” of her marital problems.
While their experiences are not identical, Knight’s may provide a window into what awaits this wife if she does not take action and free her family from their current toxic situation.

As one commenter put it simply: “What a miserable life he leads. He clearly needs to work through his hatred of women… but don’t let that apply to you. Move out before your husband does.”

Zayda Slabbekoorn is a news and entertainment writer at YourTango, focusing on health and wellness, social policy and human interest stories